There are so many "shades of grey" when you are a parent, especially if you have children that are the opposite sex of which you grew up watching your own parents raise. No one can fully prepare you for what you face when raising little people. Besides all the normal stuff of just keeping them alive and healthy there are always little things that just happen, and you have to guess what the right course of action is and you will most likely not have any extra time to post, text, or call anyone and ask their opinions on what they think you should do. My kids father and I had several things we didn't agree on when it came to raising our own, there were also things we agreed on fully. We decided we hated it when people "baby talk" babies. It really doesn't do anything for the child either. We agreed also that we were not going to over censor what they watched on tv. As in we didn't gauge our movies by the rating but more in how our son reacted to the movie or our own issues with a kid watching it. They can watch scary movies as long as it doesn't scare them, they can watch the "super hero, comic type" movies that are rated for over 13 yr olds as long as they don't repeat any adult language and they get grounded from them if they are caught doing the fighting moves with anyone else. They also have their own collection of Nick Jr. dvds, Elmo, and all the other little kiddie stuff too, which is what they mostly watch now and just on occasion watch the others.
Besides movies you have to decide mostly by your child's age on how much you tell them when they ask those normal questions all children will ask at some point. What route do you take? How graphic or fairy tale are your answers? I decided to just go with the truth, my almost 6 year old asks a question and I give him the best and shortest answer that comes to mind. The thing though is that he remembers everything! He couldn't hear right for the first 3 1/2 years of his life so about half of his short life. With what his Dr. said he was hearing like he was under water so his speaking didn't sound like english words but half words and half babble speak. Besides his dad and I, my mom could understand the most of what he was trying to say. I was never one of those parents though that pretend they always knew what their child was saying to them when not actually using words, another thing that bugs me. haha
So anyway, the other day we walked to our little corner store and the man behind us in line was holding a case of beer. I personally have only had two drinks of alcohol at home since he has been born and both times was when he was asleep so he really has no concept of alcohol. He asks the man behind us what he was holding and the man told him beer. He instantly replies, "Ohh that means you are going to get drunk!" I gave my little embarrassed laugh and the guy asks me after he stops laughing himself, "Where did he hear that?" I told him, well, he asks me a lot of questions and I always tell him the truth. And he remembers E-V-E-R-Y-thing! So on our way home I reminded my boy that even though Mommy always tell you the truth about everything that you ask it doesn't mean that you should repeat those things to others. A lot of people don't tell their kids these things and think that kids really shouldn't know that stuff yet. But he's my son and I just love everything about his little smart self so I am not holding my breath on what he says to family or strangers next.
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